One would think that I live in a populated enough city that I could find someone in town to date; however, the pickings are slim people! I’m not gonna pretend to advise anyone on what might be an appropriate geographic area. I’ve been on dates with guys who lived three hours away…..which seems excessive to me. But hey, if you want to drive up and meet me, I’m not gonna stop you. I will say that I never….never …..ever drive to meet a guy first! If I’m get murdered by some deranged ax murderer, it’s going to be in the comfort of my own city thank you very much! (I did drive once to meet a guy, but I knew him previously, I had other friends in his town, and that’s a different story.)
The whole debacle of this date could have been avoided had I stuck to my #1 rule of dating: They need to be taller than me! SEE THE AWFUL THINGS THAT CAN HAPPEN WHEN YOU BREAK THE RULES KIDS! Anyway!!! I ended up emailing a sorta cute guy on Match.com. He said he was the same height as me, but this is one quality that men generally tend to round up, and you should always be wary. I say he is “sorta” cute only because he’s not the type I generally like to date, but again I was trying to be better about busting out of my routine. After all, the routine has been highly unsuccessful to date and change can be good. He’s an architect in Minnesota, he wanted to come down to SooFoo on a Saturday afternoon for a date, and I agreed because frankly what was the worst that could happen? (Ax murderer visions aside of course). We met up at a Buffalo Wild Wings, and that’s where the real journey begins.
First impressions…..they are important…..I shall rattle off a few of mine about the Architect.
- Shiny, big, black Jeep…..acceptable, but not a truck
- Short……I want to say he had boots on, and we were maybe exactly matched in height
- Well dressed…..very like “grown-up hipster” style. Nice leather jacket, worn in t shirt, rolled skinny jeans.
- Slim…..skinny in a “I used to be/am a distance runner” sorta way…..which he was/is.
To sum up the Architect in one sentence– He looks vaguely like Jason Mraz, and the way he talks and acts reminds me of Kuzco the llama emperor! He’s really quite funny, and we get along really well.
I should maybe point out, that it’s quite possible, that I went to this date feeling slightly hung over. I’m not entirely sure anymore. I remember being hesitant about ordering a beer, but that could have just been because he made me order first, and I HATE having to like decide the tone of a date. We hung out, ate a bit, chatted, ya know the usual datey type things. He has a dog, I have a dog….our dogs are nothing alike. He has a boat, I have a boat…..our boats aren’t for the same activities. He wants to live in a modern loft or shipping container house!?? My style is maybe best described as “modern Marie Antoinette”?!? Even though he’s a funny guy, I had pretty much already decided that we weren’t going to date. Is that rash?!?! I mean if it’s not there is not there right!! We’ll come back to this topic in a hot minute, just stick with me for a bit.
At some point, we decided to leave B-Dubs and go to my bar of choice. My preferred bar was on the opposite side of town, and since the Architect isn’t super familiar with SooFoo, I offered to drive us. Helpful tip, in today’s modern age of technology, if a guy can’t get himself across town, you shouldn’t be with him! Granted, I offered, but I could have avoided this awkward tale if I had made him drive himself. I mentioned that I may have been hungover because I had been at the bar the night before, and a couple of the bartenders commented on this. Sue me, they have good food and I like the ambiance! Actually, being close to my bar and a nice kitchen were the major selling points of my house! While at the bar, we actually started talking about old relationships, which is generally a huge first date no-no. However, out of this conversation came the premise that I have an absurd dating history and that I should write a book. Basically, if you enjoy my blog at all….you have the Architect to thank! He was the first one to ask “Where do you find these people?!?” and I’m still trying to figure that out. He also coined the term “educated hood rat” to describe my general lifestyle tendencies. It seems odd, but it’s actually pretty accurate. 95% of the time my life is put together, organized, and I generally act like an adult. However, that 5% of the time when I don’t care and want to get a bit crazy, my friends and I don’t jack around with it. We all are firm believers of the “Work hard, play harder” life mantra! We never really act like what you envision as an actual hood rat….we aren’t delinquents we just like to party!
Through the course of conversation, he discovered that I had never been drinking downtown. He considered this just slightly below personally offensive, decided that we should switch bars again, and remedy this immediately. I was still having a fairly good time at this point, but suggested that I needed to go home, feed my dog, and hang some custom art I had just picked up. Basically, a polite, “Let’s end this now and maybe do it again sometime.” However, “I need to hang art,” was not the exit phrase to tell a guy who double majored in architecture and art. He thought a detour for art on the way to downtown would be ideal. It’s now important to mention that this happened during summer time in SoDak, when thunderstorms can pop up out of nowhere. While we were at my place hanging art and googling bars downtown, it started pouring. So here I am, with the Architect and my dog, stuck in my apartment while a monsoon rages outside. I’m a huge baby about being rained on when I’ve straightened my hair, and this wasn’t the “quick, run to the car you won’t get that wet” sorta rain. This was the rainy season in some tropical country.
Needless to say, we did not make it to downtown Soo Foo that night. What we did do was continue the conversations about being educated hood rats and crazy past relationships. I also sprinkled in some fun medical facts because I’m really entertained by people who get squeamish in the face of biology. I’m not sure why he didn’t want to drive home that night, something about rain and it being late maybe? I’m not sure, and my attention span is on par with a hyper toddler’s, so we were already well past the point were I was really paying attention to anything. We agreed to keep talking until morning when he could drive home, and that really failed pretty hard. Sometime in the middle of these conversations we mutually passed out haphazardly strewn across my bed. Ok, sorta not how one envisions a first date going but ya know….I’m sure weirder things have happened right!? For the sake of my Mother’s mental sanity, I will stress that nothing happened! Once we both woke up a bit he suggested a nap and lunch before he had to drive back to Minnesota. I, being the sometimes bitch that I am, denied him both and drove him back to his car at B-Dubs. This series of events didn’t take quite a full 24 hours….but it was really close enough to round! I’m rounding, because “The Approximately 22.25 Hour First Date” doesn’t have the same ring to it.
The Architect and I hung out randomly a few times throughout the summer, but nothing ever came of it, obviously. He did come one night to party with me and my people. This was the night that caused the Bestie to keep declaring that I should give him more chances. Bestie’s Momma had other ideas and declared that if there wasn’t a spark, I needed to move right along. Move right alone I did! Not sure where I moved to….obviously not anywhere great, but that’s the journey I guess. The Architect and I still talk sometimes. In fact, he was in town and took me out to lunch the day I closed on my new house. He actually came and looked at the house, but didn’t offer to hang any art. 🙂