I never thought I’d have to write this blog. I’ve written blogs like this before, but I never thought I would have to write one about this person…..Main Squeeze…..
I wrote the title and the first line 2 months ago, and then I just sat on it. I waited in the hopes of not burning a bridge, I waited hoping that things would change, and we would get better. I waited thinking that if you had love everything else would eventually fall into place. I waited thinking that a connection as strong as and instant as we had had to mean something.
I was wrong
For two months I fought everyday to hold on to feelings and a love that I thought could get us through anything. I knew I couldn’t make him love me, but he swore that he did, and he promised that a life with me was what he wanted. He was my person, he was the one I turned to to make things better, and even now I just want him to tell me that things will be ok.
For two months I waited. Waited to feel like I mattered to him again, mattered more than just a text message, or a random phone call. Waited for him to decide that he wanted to see me, and that things would go back to how they had always been. In the moments were it all felt hopeless he would talk to me, and we would talk about how we were feeling and how much we loved each other and it felt like we’d turn a corner…….but the corner was never a corner, just a ring.
For two months we talked everyday. He told me how much he wanted to fix things and that we were going to work on things to be better together. And for two months I believed him, I trusted that we wanted the same thing, and I had hope that things would be ok. After one ruined vacation with him, he told me he wanted to go on vacation with my family, and I trusted him. I invited him to spend time with my family even though I had never met his.
For two months I poured my whole heart into something that couldn’t have been more of a lie.
Yesterday he told me that he’s no longer in love with me, but that he still loves me. Yesterday he told me that we have nothing in common, because I don’t love sports the way he does. Yesterday he told me he no longer could see me in his future, because he doesn’t want to be in a relationship like we had.
In that moment, everything felt like it was crumbling. I had known things weren’t perfect, and I knew we were nearing the end, but to have it happen all over again was something I just wasn’t ready for. I had woke up Friday morning knowing that he wasn’t going to come see me for the weekend like he promised. I don’t know how or why any of this caught me off guard and made me feel so helpless, but it did. To have to listen to him say those things after finding so much comfort the night before in him saying that I was the girl he wanted and that we weren’t fizzling out, it was crushing.
I don’t even know how to feel…..